Heyyy, FABS! Happy 2018! I can’t even believe it’s February, and that time is on super speed this year. I apologize for being away so long, but actually I don’t because I’ve been needing a big mental break. Regardless, I’m back with something that has been really heavy on my heart.
I thought 2017 was the toughest year I’d ever experience, but 2018 was just waiting in the bushes ready to jump out with allllll the bull. To say the past month has been rough would be an extremely severe understatement.
In the midst of these continuous storms, I started noticing an overwhelming pattern amongt myself and other ladies going through very similar, and even very different situations.
So often, when we as women are faced with adversity, we have a terrible tendency to try to pinpoint a personal flaw that could be the reason for the problem we’re enduring. If you’re not pretending to be perfect (no longer needed, just so you know), then you’ve probably been here.
Just the other day, I was thinking...”maybe if I would’ve, or if I hadn’t done...” as if my actions or lack thereof could’ve saved me from anything that has come at me.
Let’s be clear. Karma is real. You reap what you sow. But I’m speaking on situations we can’t control. Being blindsided by something that seems so undeserving.
I’ve heard it all too many times. Women soul searching to figure out where they went wrong when really they did everything right.
The danger of these thoughts is feeling inadequate. Feeling like you aren’t worthy. Feeling like you to need to be or do more. ENOUGH IS ENOUGH for those types of thoughts.
The truth is, you can’t control everything. As a matter of fact, the ONLY things you can control are your words, actions, and thoughts. Everything else is unpredictable, and may not always work in your favor.
I encourage you to take some time to reflect on the last time you self blamed. Ask yourself why? Ask yourself if you truly planted seeds to reap the harvest you received. If you did, be accountable and change your actions. But if you didn’t, stop those thoughts of self blame DEAD in their tracks.
I pray that every beautiful woman reading this knows that you are ENOUGH just as you are. Learn to accept or reject the things/people/circumstances you can’t change. Change the ones you can by looking within. Always have the wisdom to know the difference between the two.
Have a blessed week, my loves!